Is Self-Care included in your day to day activities?
How important is Self-Care to you?
I invite you to gently close your eyes and take a deep, slow breath in for a count of 4.
Hold for 4 seconds.
Exhale for 4 seconds.
Allow yourself to sink a little deeper into your seat and allow your shoulders to relax and soften.
Again take a deep, slow breath in allowing any concerns or worries to melt away. You have full permission to be here today and there is no need to be anywhere else. Be fully present to the here and now.
Allow yourself to relax a little deeper, letting the ground beneath you support your entire being, allow a loving warmth envelop your entire body, you are loved and supported in this moment.
Bringing your senses to the world around you, allow yourself to hear the sounds surrounding you and the fabric of your clothing on your skin.
When you are ready, gently open your eyes.
How do you feel?
I would love to congratulate you on bringing some nourishing self-care and a whole lot of self-love into your day, even for just a few moments.
If I may, I would like to pose a few questions to you.
On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest.
How do you incorporate self-care into your day?
Now on that same scale of 1-10.
How important is self-care to you?
Personally, as a woman (and correct me if I am wrong, but I am guessing it would be the same for the amazing men in the world), it can be very easy to let our self-care slide. As adults, well throughout any stage of life really, we ‘get busy’, we have family, work, social, personal commitments and that’s just to name a few. At the end of the day and please raise your hand if you can relate.
You feel tired?
You’re absolutely exhausted?
Your brain literally just wants to switch off from the world and that, what feels like, a never ending ‘to do’ list?
You could quite possibly feel like dropping everything on the kitchen table as soon as you walk in the door, grab a glass of wine, cup of tea, kombucha or whatever your flavour is and maybe even that slice of cake that keeps glaring into your eyes every time you open the fridge or that packet of something that seems to be there every time you open the pantry door. It just seems, at this point in the day, that quick and easy is 100% the best option, and then just cosily slumping into the couch for whatever TV show you find interesting for the night ahead.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we all do this, but I can be quite prone to a cold glass of wine, a quick snack and Netflix, boy don’t get me started on Netflix. One thing I’ve realised though is this scenario feels good for a little while and then that yucky, sluggish feeling glazes over you and you get a severe attack of the quilts. Aaarrgghhhh, why did I just devour all of that.
So, how on earth can we change this around?
Allow me to share 5 ways you can supercharge your self-care, starting today.
First up, Essential Oils, oh sweet mama nature, thank you from the bottom of my heart for making the production of essential oils possible. Bringing mama natures magic into your self-care practice is essential (pun intended). Oils like Lavender to help promote restful sleep, Peppermint to help increase focus (yes please, says me as 3:30itis sneaks in), Wild Orange cos’ who doesn’t want a bottle of happiness in their handbag when things get a little rough, am I right?. Using essential oils can assist in supporting our mind, body and soul in such a gentle and natural way. Over the years I have found using essential oils as a tool to create harmony and balance within my body has allowed me to slow down and really tune in to what my body is needing.
Next up is, sleep, who feels they have the perfect sleep routine? PAUSE The National Sleep Foundation recommends that adults aged 18-64 years have 7-9 hours sleep each night and adults over the age of 65 years have 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
How many hours do you get each night?
What are the health benefits of getting a great nights’ sleep? Your immune system works better, you will have increased energy levels, your concentration will be sharper, decision-making capabilities are better, memory is improved, stress is managed easier and your physical health is much better because you have the energy to give 100%.
Another beautiful way to bring self-care into your daily routine is meditation. Meditation assists you in helping to reduce stress, enhances your self-awareness and is a great way to bring presence into your daily living. Even giving yourself a few minutes to sit in stillness and take notice of the sounds that surround you, the smells that linger past your nostrils, the feeling of the fabrics that are caressing your skin, is a powerful self-care practice. I have heard quite a lot from people that they “cannot” meditate. Take the pressure off yourself beauty and surrender to a no rule meditation practice, there is no right or wrong way to meditate, the only way to meditate is your way. If you struggle with starting to meditate light a candle in a safe space and sit quietly keeping a light gaze on the flame and being present to the dance of that flame. Connect and give yourself permission to do it your way.
Number 4, Journalling, grab your pen and notebook and let’s get personal. Our brain is a beautiful, complex playground and as a result you can experience anywhere from 60-80,000 thoughts each and every day. WOAH!! No wonder we can find ourselves getting overwhelmed. There’s something about putting ink onto paper that just allows you to feel rested. Take a deep breathe in and go UHHHHHHHHH!!! Start or end your day, or anytime really, by grabbing your trusty pen and notebook and just write. That’s right, just write, purely uncensored, no time for worrying about grammatical errors here, cos’ you are just letting it all out. No one needs to see your writing, it’s just for you, your eyes only.
And last but not least, Get out into Mama Nature, go for a gentle walk, walking for 10 or more minutes is enough to turn a bad mood into a good one. Allow the sun to kiss your skin (don’t forget to slip, slop, slap though) and take a few deep breathes. Walking not your thing? Grab a cuppa and sit outside, listen to the birds or whatever sounds surround you and mindfully sip your beverage. You could take a trip to the beach and dig your toes into the sand letting the sea air tussle your hair. Mama Nature provides us with so many ways to bring more self-care into our daily lives, it’s purely up to us to embrace the magic that she offers.
Would you like a bonus way to supercharge you self-care?
Here it is, disconnect to reconnect, in this day and age technology has come a long way. Would you agree? Along with the advancements of technology our access to social media has also been simplified. I’ll be the first to say, “I love a social media scroll of a morning while sipping on my coffee and quite honestly I love a social media scroll at any time of the day, Is anyone with me? However, with this love of social media scrolling also comes a lot of comparing and fear of missing out (or FOMO as the cool kids would say it). You can quickly find yourself feeling extremely insecure and alone. As a coach and building a business online I have fallen prey to these feelings on more than one occasion. It’s hard hitting, it’s not pretty and it’s definitely not what the developers of the top social media platforms would have designed them for. Honestly, this self-care tip is another topic I could passionately speak about, but I’m limited to half an hour today so I won’t get my passion on this ignited. Out of curiosity has anyone found themselves comparing themselves on social media in any way? So you would know what I am saying.
To overcome this torment I would put myself though, I started to unfollow anyone that would trigger me. I did do a lot of work to uncover what my triggers looked like so I could unfollow at the first sign of them. After a while, I found I could re follow someone who I felt triggered by as I had ‘done the work’ on myself to discover why I was being triggered. This in itself was a pure, honest act of self-care. I was acknowledging where I was at that point in time, I was acknowledging what and why I was feeling that way. I was honouring myself as the glorious person I am and allowing myself to have a boundary where I wasn’t going to let anyone cross, that I didn’t feel comfortable in doing.
Today, I don’t unfollow or get triggered as much, I have learnt that by setting myself healthy boundaries around social media and also technology as a whole, I am much more prepared for the new age world of social media. I have set a no phone/no social media zone, a time when I absolutely disconnect from the outside world and I only focus on my current world, my beautiful family. I disconnect completely by 8pm every night and on weekends I try to disconnect for the majority of the time. I do have sneak peaks or post something but it isn’t a necessity, it’s purely a ‘if I feel like it, I’ll log on’ situation. My main priority is being present with my family.
I encourage you to try this practice for yourself, set yourself a disconnect time so you too can reconnect with YOURSELF and/or your family.
I would love to hear what your favourite way to supercharge your self-care is?
If you are open to sharing, what is one take-away you have discovered today that you will begin to incorporate into your daily self-care?